good stuff

I think the biggest killer of any kind of relationship is a lack of honest communication. We either lie to ourselves which makes it impossible to be honest with others, we choose to outright lie to our partner because we think the truth won't get us anywhere, or we fail to listen to what others say and jump to conclusions that are false. Often times we are scared to say what we really feel for fear of rejection, anger, or disappointment from the other party and we offer up what we think they want to hear, which just sets us up for failure and resentment. Sometimes we get so self absorbed we don't listen and not feeling heard in a relationship is a sure way to build resentment. It is hard to say what you mean and mean what you say and get your head out of your ass and really listen and hear without jumping to conclusions or getting defensive, but it is the only way to have a good relationship. A good relationship doesn't suck...here are a few other things that don't:

John DeVore "hot writer man" you have done it again...I fall more in love with you with every article. I wish I could print this out, make about a million copies, and distribute to every man I know, some I don't, and to everyone raising boys. I will instead post a link and hope all MY readers read it: http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-mind-of-man-the-number-one-lesson-i-will-teach-my-future-son-about-wome/

Ok, it isn't just the guys who turn off their ears, sometimes us ladies do it too, and this video gives a ridiculous example...in addition to the not listening there is a tad bit o' crazy and then jumping to conclusions and it REALLY f*cked up a relationship...wow...seriously, you HAVE to watch: http://www.heavy.com/video/crazy-emails-from-girlfriend-vacation-gone-wrong-73357/ good stuff.

Alrighty...that is all I got this week...off to bed cuz I am wicked tired. I have a four day weekend ahead and the forecast is for fabulous weather...that, sure as sh#t, doesn't suck.