juggling

Ever walk into some one's house and just feel at home? Samantha had Dancergirl and me and our kids over last night and whether it was because her house is just comfortable or she is just open and welcoming, I don't know, but the Pea and I fell right into our surroundings and settled in. The kids all got along as if they have known each other forever and had anyone been looking from the outside in they would have never suspected that Samantha and I had just met. There was no awkwardness or feeling each other out...we instantly fell into talking about EVERYTHING and it was such a relief to find two women...TWO...who are enough like me to "get it" but different enough that we can all learn from each other and bring different things to the relationship.

Dancergirl and I are in very similar places in our singlehood...we have been away from the baby daddy long enough to know for sure we are done...have both had "the rebound" (and no, I haven't talked about him on the blog so you didn't miss anything) a few flirtations...and are ready to move on, but still scared of the whole dating scene. I convinced her to try Match and she signed up a few days ago, so I am sure we will be comparing notes soon. Samantha has been single awhile and has gotten to the stage where she is fully enjoying that singleness and is not scared at all...she had a lot of great advice for us. She is managing to balance being a mommy with being a woman, and enjoying life and men in the process.

While I was there all three of our phones were chirping like mad, and after each call a brief "that was (insert man name here)" and either blushing, rolling of the eyes, or a little smile...well that got us talking about the assorted men in our lives, and dating in general, and on and on and on, as us girls will do, when in the company of other girls and wine. I told them a bit about Coach, as well as my general uneasiness with "juggling" (which they heartily encouraged to GET OVER) and it occurred while I was leaving that HE was not one of the ones that called or texted. Now, we certainly aren't at that stage where we check in with each other all day, every day...and now that I am thinking about it, hope we NEVER are, cuz I had that in my marriage and felt like a tagged animal...BUT, it would have been nice to hear from him, even if just a goodnight text.

I woke up this morning thinking about him, and juggling, and Match, and Jill Conner Browne's advice regarding the 5 (I say 6 : http://crazyincarolina.blogspot.com/2008/10/amazing.html) men you need in your life, and truth is: I have all my needs met. I am pretty happy that I have a guy to talk to, a guy to fix things, etc. etc...worrying about whether or not Coach wants to be anything more than the guy I have great sex with is just silly considering I don't know if I even WANT him to be more than that. I mean, I THINK I do, but given that all I know for sure regarding our compatibility is that we both like football, beer, the beach, and acting like naughty monkeys, I dunno.

When/if Coach and I have "the talk" things will change, but for now I am just gonna roll with it, have some fun, go back to match and do a little flirting...I still don't think I can juggle multiple lovers, but I am always on the lookout for more men I can dance with and men I can talk to, and have YET to find me "a man who can pay for things."